No, its doesnt really answer the question, but you tried so thats good. Um,... lets see. It really cna be hard to tell but tis MIGHT help: DONT PAY ATTENTION TO COLOR
The above is PCIx 16
The Below is AGP
As far as reccomending a card for you, I make no reccomendations without seeing system specs first - and you shouldnt listen to anyone who does otherwise. It's always nice to hold off as long as possible and then throw a ton at your comp than to do it slow <-- my opinion here's why---> Because is done slowly you have a hunk of junk just keeping good enough from being soo crappy that you need a new one but never 'good' otherwise if you do it all at once you start off with a nice computer, own a nice one for a while and by the time its not 'good' your no worse off then where you started had you done it slow. So just save up if you can.
You can use your old case to save money when upgrading a PC as long as you keep track of its size and dont keep a miniPC and put a fullsize MB in it because it wont fit

. A few other things but nothing to mention, if you liek it keep it - although you may or may not have to upgrade the power supply with a new build so keeping a case itself only saves $50 (which can be alot).
Square is fine, some people are all about being square - heh but anyways, I would reccomend a 19" over 17 even if only because its really going to be like the difference between $5-$20 to get the 19 and its more cost effective. Once you have it (19) you realise how much you always wanted it (just like dual screens).
Is 8ms bad? um,... I dont know how fast can you see? Everyone is different, have different tastes and abilities. 8ms means how fast the screen will be able to update itself, which incase you dont know translates to Hz / frames per second (in a manor of speaking) by taking 1 / 8ms = 1 / .008 = 125Hz - meaning that the monitor has the ability to refresh as fast as 125 times per second.