Bullying/Discrimination and YOU.

Fistacles

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First of all, I apologize for grammatical or spelling errors in this post, but its 3am, I can’t sleep, and this really is something from the heart that I feel needs to be addressed.

Recently, especially on our TTT server, we have had several complaints about people being trolled, bullied, or discriminated against just because of their age, sexual orientation, race, or even what community they belong to. This is something that happens time and time again, and is posted about constantly, but we as a community need to start stepping up.


First and foremost, THIS. IS. NOT. ALLOWED. It’s almost become the norm that people think it’s okay to treat others with disrespect no matter what, and it’s absolutely disgusting. Bullying is something that needs to be rightfully addressed and dealt with head-on, but lately seems to be ignored by a lot of people. It’s terrible to be treated with disrespect just because they are different.


One of the main reasons why I am writing this is not only have i seen it happening in-game, but being done by Admins themselves, which to me is just plain wrong. I am not here to point fingers or state names, but the fact that it is occuring by trusted members of our community leaves a bad taste in my mouth. If you are being bullied, or see someone that’s being discriminated against or being disrespected just because of who they belong to or who they are, step up and do something.


Someone disrespecting you? Get a hold of an admin, or someone you trust. We have many different ways of getting a hold of someone. Through in-game chat, teamspeak, steam messages, our Dropbox, as well as Forum PMs, we as a community are here to help. If you are being bullied because of your age, or discriminated against because of who you are, or whatever clan you belong to, Do not be afraid to contact anyone.


Are you witnessing someone being Discriminated against? Don’t just sit there and let it happen, step in. Tell them to knock it off; and for admins, deal with it in a strict manner. We here at eGO welcome everyone with open arms, No matter what. We were all taught at a young age the Golden Rule: Treat others the way you want to be treated. Unfortunately, nowadays it seems like that idea is long-gone.


If someone is starting to get under your skin, if they begin to annoy you just because its who they are or how they sound, then either contact someone or remove yourself from the situation. However, just because they are bugging you does not give you the full right to disrespect or bully them.


One of the many reasons I ended up joining eGO is because bullying was rarely ever a thing. I was a 13 year old kid with a squeaky voice my first time on eGO servers, yet I rarely ever got disrespected just because of who I was; and when I did, It got dealt with harshly and quickly. It sickens me to see that sometimes nowadays that isn’t the case anymore.


In Short, Start treating each other with respect. If you see someone acting out of turn by bullying another player, Step in and do something about it. As someone who has been a chronic victim of real-life bullying to the point of hospitalization, I do not take anything of this sort lightly. And Neither should you. Bullying has become a virus that has plagued our servers recently, and it sickens me. Please, if you see it occurring, Don't just sit there twiddling your thumbs. Step in and help deal with the situation at hand.

Thank you,

~Fistacles

EDIT: I would like to make some clarifications now that i see this post after a fresh 8 hours of sleep. I didnt just sit back and let it happen by the admins. I isolated them and discussed with them 1-on-1 about what happened, and left it at that. They have since apologized for their act, and id rather end it at that than to publicly shame them. But please, if you do see someone bullying, including admins, tell someone, or anyone, as this is not what eGO stands for.
 
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R&U

No but seriously, good write up! We are all about family friendly gaming around here! :)
 
I am right there with you Fisticles. No one should be the butt of a joke. I myself was a victim of bullying when I was in school. And just like you said I don't take to bullying lightly. The main thing that needs to happen here is See something, Say something. If you see something happening, say something. You never know what might happen. This one time being bullied might be the last for some (I know its dark to take it that far). Now that I am not in school anymore I still see bullying happen and its worse now then ever. Bullying is not a joke and never will be. Even though its online...online bullying has real life consequences. (Like Fisticals said sorry if grammer is off and sorry if my points ran on or are jumbled...it is 4:30 am after all).

Remember. See something, Say something!
 
R&U

Yeah i've been victim of bullies from school it was horrible thing to do, i have been though all that from bullies, bullies at work, mistreated etc sometimes i really hate my life for that, life can be very cruel in these days, some days it get me very bad depression and very hurt and angry over these bullies, so bullies are biggest looser and no respect for others as they think they are tough but they are just p***y for fun, i wont forgive them for what they did to me and wont help them because they lost my trust and broke my soul etc
 
I've copied this over to the eG discussion area and I'd appreciate it if all CS admins read it HERE

As far bullying period, this is against the rules, and should be handled by admins appropriately.
 
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Should bullying be handled by w/k/b like normal or should it be a little stricter?
 
Should bullying be handled by w/k/b like normal or should it be a little stricter?

Yes, a w/k/b should be followed, unless it's an extreme case, then use your judgement. If you're not sure, ask another admin, or follow chain of command and ask until you find an answer.
 
Fist, I would suggest a dropbox post regarding admins who are bullying. Or, if you want to be more discrete, pm a leadership member whom who trust. If you do not call them out, they will continue.
 
Great post Fistacles. This kind of behaviour is not what eGO is about. Let's do our best to stop this and continue making eGO the fun and inclusive place it always has been
 
Great post Fistacles. This kind of behaviour is not what eGO is about. Let's do our best to stop this and continue making eGO the fun and inclusive place it always has been

Agreed!
 
I would like to ask for help admining D2 on css. Everytime someone calls another player a "p*ssy", I warn them, then the whole server backfires on me and it PISSES me off, because I can't even admin them and it makes me just want to skip the wkb and go straight to a ban for a day. Literally, a few people told a player named "Blako20" to "STFU" I step in and take action, and the players tell me they are "JOKING". During that time, a Douchebag player named "NARS" ,who has been banned once for a crap ton of Disrespect, goes on the same team as blako and literally ghosts the t's where he is at. a warn and a kick to him and he comes back, downs me, and says, "Admin mad". really? that is really pathetic. players like him, shouldn't deserve to play on our servers if they are not going to listen and continue to disrespect other players.
SO PLEASE, I would like some help with admining D2. At least 3-4 admins on at one time for that server, because it is really corrupted with Toxic players.
 
I would like to ask for help admining D2 on css. Everytime someone calls another player a "p*ssy", I warn them, then the whole server backfires on me and it PISSES me off, because I can't even admin them and it makes me just want to skip the wkb and go straight to a ban for a day. Literally, a few people told a player named "Blako20" to "STFU" I step in and take action, and the players tell me they are "JOKING". During that time, a Douchebag player named "NARS" ,who has been banned once for a crap ton of Disrespect, goes on the same team as blako and literally ghosts the t's where he is at. a warn and a kick to him and he comes back, downs me, and says, "Admin mad". really? that is really pathetic. players like him, shouldn't deserve to play on our servers if they are not going to listen and continue to disrespect other players.
SO PLEASE, I would like some help with admining D2. At least 3-4 admins on at one time for that server, because it is really corrupted with Toxic players.

Shadow it's important that you step up and assert yourself in those situations. You are the authority figure in the server not them. It seems to me that you're trying to take action but then back off once they start to push back. It's expected that people, especially the tight knit group that the D2 regulars are, try to push back when they disagree with what we are doing. However, we can't let it get out of hand. We rely on everyone's experitise and common sense to handle situations accordingly. We also give you a ton of tools to help you handle situations accordingly.

If you're receiving pushback from players, remind them that our server rules are there for a reason. There's no excuse to joke around and try to get around those rules. No matter your intentions, if you break the rules you will be adminined. Players who want to argue or disagree should be admined as well. Mute / Gag them according and then issue a warning in allchat "If you'd like to discuss or complain about the rules with our Leadership please post on our forums". If players continue to cause problems after you have issued an allchat warning, kick the problem individuals out for Sever Disruption.

Reminding everyone that we are here to play games, not argue about server rules is important. Also reminding players that you aren't the ones who make the rules also may help. Refer them to visit our Leadership staff to have their concerns heard. A mistake often made is just tossing out the "admins have the final say drop it" or "admin disrespect isn't tolerated." Those statements will just further piss people off and start a riot.
 
PS: That dude who came back and said "Admin Mad?" should have been banned for being a jerk. We don't like jerks on our server. Remember our motto is punk free gaming.
 
There is never a reason for you or anyone else to bad mouth/patronize anyone while playing on our servers. Truthfully I do not know when it started to become a norm here that you can openly disrespect someone just because they sound young, are a girl, or any other reason. Like Fist has said, please don't just sit back and hope someone else will deal with the situation. Step up for yourself and stop the bully in their tracks there. More than 1 voice telling someone to stop is much more powerful than just 1 person saying it.

So as a community, put this to an end. And under NO circumstances should a member/admin be tolerating or participating in this behavior. If you see one of our members/admins doing this to players, put in a Dropbox post. This is something that must be dealt with sternly and without hesitation.
 
Damn straight, important thread. Something i've noticed a lot recently. eGO is a home for everyone and always has been. Regardless of they are "too old" or "too young" for games, their gender, or their race. That's what makes eGO special man. Let's keep it that way.
 
I'm glad to see that you guys have a solid stance against stuff like this.

I haven't seen any discrimination in your servers (probably because I just play on ttt and jailbreak) but if I ever see anything along these lines there's no need to fret, I'M A STRONG INDEPENDENT VEGETABLE (who knows how to find an admin to help her ;) )
 
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